In response to your message, I believe the primary benefit of the second question is that it validates you, lets you know you are seen, you have been heard. When someone ventures to ask the second question, you know they want to hear more, they have not turned the conversation to their concerns, they are still with you. You are therefore free to share more, knowing your concerns matter to them. After this opening, you are free to explore the answers to their questions in an environment of love and caring. Sometimes that is all we need to be ready to tackle the rest of our day. Blessings my sister.
i LOVED reading these thoughts -- i've been meaning to circle back for several weeks now. Your reflections here point us to the power of relationship. (It's not just the 2nd question.)
We so deeply need people bearing witness alongside, as we process / metabolize the circumstances & storylines we live through. (It's not enough to excavate + dig deeper all by ourselves -- at least in my experience: I've needed others to place-share alongside.)
I know from my own experience -- and from watching you with others -- that's a gift you routinely offer to others ;)
JT please know that you are in my prayers.
In response to your message, I believe the primary benefit of the second question is that it validates you, lets you know you are seen, you have been heard. When someone ventures to ask the second question, you know they want to hear more, they have not turned the conversation to their concerns, they are still with you. You are therefore free to share more, knowing your concerns matter to them. After this opening, you are free to explore the answers to their questions in an environment of love and caring. Sometimes that is all we need to be ready to tackle the rest of our day. Blessings my sister.
i LOVED reading these thoughts -- i've been meaning to circle back for several weeks now. Your reflections here point us to the power of relationship. (It's not just the 2nd question.)
We so deeply need people bearing witness alongside, as we process / metabolize the circumstances & storylines we live through. (It's not enough to excavate + dig deeper all by ourselves -- at least in my experience: I've needed others to place-share alongside.)
I know from my own experience -- and from watching you with others -- that's a gift you routinely offer to others ;)